StyleJump’s Guide To Traditional Etiquette – Part One

14 Sep

Here at StyleJump, we have quite an affection for the grace of times gone by. We’re launching our guide to etiquette for those ladies who want to make the very best impression. Cursing like a trucker and not taking care to pay attention to others may undo all your good work of being beautifully dressed and well-groomed.

Introducing our In House Etiquette Specialist Kelley Burke, who will be bringing StyleJump readers on a trip down through the etiquette that has waned.
 
If you have a question you would like Kelley to answer you can email her at Kelley@stylejump.com and she will do her best to answer it for you!

“Etiquette tells one which fork to use. Manners tell one what to do when your neighbor doesn’t.”

Introductions

People often worry about the forms of introductions, but the only true unforgivable breach of etiquette is the failure to attempt an introduction when people who don’t know each other are in your presence. –Emily Post’s Etiquette

In introducing people to each other you have one goal, to give each person enough material and common ground to carry on a conversation.

When being introduced or introducing yourself to others, smile, keep your shoulders back, look a person in the eye, speak clearly and extend your hand for a firm handshake. Always give your full name and tell them something small about yourself. Always give a last name when introducing people to each other.

Gentlemen, if wearing a hat hats are tipped, or doffed slightly, lifting the hat off your forehead, when meeting a lady. Hats should also be tipped when saying “Thank you”, “Hello”, “Goodbye” or “How do you do?” to anyone, male or female.

A gentleman dons his hat to leave.

Victorian-Etiquette

If you are the host in a social situation, you should do your very best to get the conversation started between two people who have just met. Try to find a topic they have in common to encourage discourse.

Order of The Introduction.

Identify the most important person of the group. If you’re being graced by royalty or heads of state, these are the most important people. More likely for most of us, this is the eldest woman in the group. When introducing her you say her full name first. If no women are in the group, the first name spoken is that of the eldest man or most distinguished man.

Mrs. Important, I would like you to meet Mr. Unimportant.

Below are four guidelines to remember that cover most situations.

  1. A younger person is introduced to an older person. The older person’s name is stated first. (“Uncle T, I want you to meet my roommate, Harriet. Harriet this is my Uncle, Mr. Jones ”) Remember the song “She’s a Lady”…
  2. A person of high rank or special prominence is named first and receives the introduction. The lesser rank is introduced to them. (“Doctor Kate, may I present my husband Arthur?”)
  3. When introducing family members to others, the other person’s name is generally said first if the people being introduced are of roughly the same age and rank.
  4. Traditionally in social situations, men are introduced to women. (“Mrs. Jones, I’d like to introduce Mr. Paul.”)
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